A long time ago, the first stars - and those that followed - ended their lives in tremendously energetic explosions, creating every single piece of what we are made of, and ultimately leading to you reading this.
Build your inner-self like you would build a bridge: strong enough to sustain the weight of the world, but flexible enough not to break. You don't want to be a tacoma narrows bridge person.
Dark matter haloes are souls, galaxies are their bodies.